Gossiping. We all do it, at least sometimes. Most often we do it in complete confidence without even thinking about consequences and without even questioning why we do it.
I recently got really aware of situations where I was talking negatively about other people or were I was with others who were gossiping and I noticed more and more that I always felt bad when doing so or when I was these people. No wonder. Complaining or talking about other people in a negative way creates negative emotions. Sometimes it makes you feel better in the first place but deep down it creates separateness.
There are many people who are judging and hating and criticising everyone and everything not recognizing that if they judge, they are also judging themselves; not realizing that if they hate, they are owning this hate themselves. What you focus on expands and if you focus on all the bad things (in the world and especially in other people) it’s what you’ll experience and see, too. There is so much beauty out there waiting to be recognized and appreciated. It’s all about your perspective, every apparently negative thing holds something good as well. There will always be good and bad, that’s life and that’s how we learn about what is wanted and desired, that’s how we evolve.
I realized it is easy to fall into this trap of being more outside than inside, it somehow satisfies the ego for some time but in the long run you’ll definitely be happier when first checking in for your own emotions and vibrations, caring about your own problems instead of other people’s stuff. We only help the world when we be the change we wish to see. There is so much you can learn from your emotions and thought patterns. Having an opinion is totally fine but always remember that what you judge in others is something you have inside yourself otherwise you wouldn’t give a damn about it. We don’t grow and heal through hate, we only grow and heal through love.
I hope that some of you enjoyed reading my last book recommendation (Pencils of Promise) because it is a really, really great book and I heard that it was sold out on Amazon for a few weeks! I always read books with the Kindle app – but I know that many people prefer to read the paper version.
Today I am recommending a book I haven’t read yet but I know that it has great content:)
I just came back from Thailand a couple of days ago. While at the airport waiting for my next flight I was in a book store and found this book that I couldn’t put down: The Monk Who Sold His Ferrari by Robin Sharma. The reason why I couldn’t put it down was because I had lots of aha moments and insights (new thoughts) as I read through parts of the book (really fast of course because I had to catch my next flight:)
This morning I opened my “learning” Facebook Newsfeed (yes, I also use Facebook in a productive way, haha) and I found a new video from Brian Johnson that you should check out: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=04QxOtBRz1Y It’s definitely a book worth reading.
Here are some really nice quotes by Robin Sharma:
“There is no mistakes in life, only lessons. There is no such thing as negative experience, only opportunities to grow, learn and advance along the road of self-mastery”
“You’ll never change the world if you’re always worried about being liked.”
“Give out what you most want to come back”
“When you have the courage to advance confidently in the direction of your dreams you begin to draw upon the power of the universe.”
“Greatness begins beyond your comfort zone”
“Your I CAN is more important than your IQ”
Have a great week, everyone!
“A man will be imprisoned in a room with a door that is unlocked and opens inwards as long as it does not occur to him to pull rather than push.” – Ludwig Wittgenstein
Oh yes, this is a talk worth watching.
“We are not afraid of what we think we’re afraid of, we are afraid of what we think.” Our subconscious mind cannot tell the difference between an imagined experience and a “real experience”.
Click here to watch the recommended TED Talk: Why aren’t we awesomer?
Your mind will always come up with fear based ideas – one mind experiences more the other less fear. You can’t influence that, but Continue reading
I want to share with you this TED talk by Andy Puddicombe. He studied meditation and perfectly outlines why meditation is so important.
Ask yourself: “When was the last time I took any time to do nothing?” No tv, no music, no distractions – just you, your thoughts and your emotions.
We make choices every day and we often forget that we can actually choose what points of view we want to experience.
We often blame others and our circumstances for our emotional state, but Continue reading
Gratefulness is so brilliantly powerful, because of the fact that you attract what you put out and it influences your emotional state positively! Continue reading
My psychology teacher in university used to say that praise, instead of criticism, can have a powerful effect on people.
Most of your subconscious beliefs have been shaped in your early childhood and beliefs shape your reality. Continue reading
Not only will your “future you” thank you for a fit and healthy body, but your “future you” will also thank you for a fit and healthy mind.
If you want to feel better about your body and are willing to change something, you start exercising, of course. I guess you already know about the significant health benefits of exercise.
But did you know that mind/awareness training is at least as important and beneficial as doing physical activity? If you want to experience emotional balance and clear thoughts then start today, not tomorrow.
Knowing how the mind works is equally important as performing the correct movement while exercising.
There are many practices, but start small if you haven’t done any “training” before: For just 2 minutes, close your eyes and relax your awareness/ your focus on any thought and watch your breath (you don’t need to influence the rhythm of your breath). If thoughts arise and you get “distracted”, that’s ok! Just return your attention back to your breath whenever you notice “blahblahblah” (a thought). Over time and when you feel comfortable you can increase the duration of your training.
Everything takes practice and determination. Take the first step:)